Be aware that when you commit to remain celibate until you remarry, there may be some people who will try to convince you that you are being unreasonable. Instead, run the other direction and resolve to date only fellow believers who share your convictions.The Bible is clear about this: Maintaining your sexual integrity is not optional; neither is getting romantically involved with someone who doesn't share your faith (2 Cor. Above all, God wants to come first in all you do (Matthew ). During that time, several men have come and gone from her life.

This may mean seeking out your pastor for support, joining a Divorce Recovery group or visiting a Christian counselor.

Some divorced church-goers try to convince themselves that God's command to abstain from sex doesn't apply to them — that it's for the never-married crowd.

Jennifer's, Samantha's and John's concerns are common, because according to the U. Census Bureau, 19.3 million Americans get divorced each year, and many of them date and eventually remarry.

Perhaps you share their concerns, as you're also wondering how you can reenter the dating world after divorce — and do so according to God's standards. Divorce is the death of the dreams you had when you committed yourself "for better or for worse." As a Christian, you can't simply separate from your spouse one day and hit the dating field the next.

And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.

Healing is also necessary to follow God's command to" do unto others what you would have them do unto you," (Matthew ).

She was ready to date and had taken time to seek God and heal after her divorce three years earlier.

She thought her lunch date had done the same, but she quickly discovered otherwise. During their lunch, his eyes filled with tears and anguish.

One way to avoid the temptation of settling is to know what's acceptable and what's not, to both you and God, before you start looking for love.

This is where slowing down before getting into a serious relationship helps.

Whenever Sharon meets someone new, she hopes that "this is the one," and Branden does, too.